Self-Confidence With Women
Having self-confidence with women and establishing strategies to attract girls with a self-confident attitude is essential for dating. Attracting women is all about acquiring that self-assured mind-set. By projecting a confident and bold image an ordinary man can get gorgeous and attractive ladies interested in him. Read on to find out some of the great ways.
Who the heck am I and why should you listen to what I have to say about confidence?
I’m a dating trainer living in California and I’ve studied many different styles of “pickup” from mystery methods, direct methods, indirect methods, NLP and some hypno-techniques. I have spent a lot of time and energy gaining this knowledge. I have found one thing to be true in almost all of the different styles and training offered, they all need confidence to really be successful. They may not always say it strait up but a typical and ordinary dude needs this confidence to approach women regardless of method. I generally believe in meaning and method over flashy maneuvers. Not to disparage, “tricks” should be employed to put “polish” on a “game” but people need the basics first; and the most basic and necessary of all of the things a guy needs to know is confidence with women.
How can you create a winning and confident mind-set?
The very first step in developing confidence is to create a positive frame of mind in regards to failure. It is a fact that people sometimes fail when they approach females. Think about baseball. If a guy gets a hit 4 out of 10 times at bat consistently, he is a “Rock-star”, bound for fame and fortune. For women it is similar. If you get 4-10 women interested you are doing quite well. Like anything you need to work at it and will get better over time. You need to get a thick skin where it comes to approaching women and not let it influence your self-assurance.
Why do women like confident men?
It mainly has to do with the perception of status. Women want to view their man or prospective man as important. They want someone who is worthy of their respect and admiration. It is not that you are not worthy of this if you lack confidence, just that she will not realize it. It is really a primal thing, coming from deep within a woman’s emotional brain. All women desire an “alpha male” or a leader, even if they are quite successful themselves. The easiest way for a man to display this is through confidence. This emotion is not something that most women can control either. It is an emotional reaction. Her logical brain may very well be interested nice and sweet guys but her emotional side will always be irresistibly drawn to a confident charmer.
Confidence Does Not Mean Talking About Me
Self confidence with women does not mean that you have to express your own virtues to get women interested in you. True self confidence means that you don’t have to express your own virtues. The best way to get women interested in you is to be interested in them. The best way to do this, again, is to ask questions about her. Ask about her interests, what she does for a living, where she got her education, what motivates her and what likes to do. To get a women interested in you, you must first show interest in her. A man with sufficient self confidence with women never needs to boast about their own accomplishments as he knows she will learn about them in due time.